• Delphia@lemmy.world
    14·
    8 hours ago

    Sometimes “Suck it the fuck up” is good advice, sometimes it isnt. Sometimes “Process this later” is healthy, sometimes it isnt.

    Emotional health is knowing what you need and when.

  • Hozerkiller@lemmy.caEnglish
    15·
    12 hours ago

    I honestly read this and until I saw the comments I assumed they were gaming and she locked in league champ select which is a valid time to cry seeing as youre about to play league.

  • Spendrill@lemm.ee
    162·
    2 days ago

    What does ‘lock in’ mean in this situation?

    Yours faithfully,

    a confused Brit.

    • Maggoty@lemmy.world
      182·
      12 hours ago

      Cowboy up.

      Get your boot straps out the dirt.

      Cryers don’t get healthcare.

      (Okay I’m running out of Americanisms)

      It’s telling someone to stop being emotional.

      • Spendrill@lemm.ee
        40·
        2 days ago

        Ah ok, thanks.

        Where I’m from a lock in is a pub illegally serving drinkers after time by locking the doors.

      • Empricorn@feddit.nlEnglish
        121·
        1 day ago

        Ok… So maybe this is a dumb question, but is it helpful to hear that when you’re having a hard time?

        • ggtdbz@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          11·
          7 hours ago

          It depends.

          It could mean just try to put bad thoughts aside until the workday/workweek ends and really try to get intentional tunnel vision. In a corporate world of hell capitalism, I get it. Not a great sign that we have slang for it, but I get it.

          It could also mean emotionally disconnect for the next while and just do what’s mechanically important (work, often gym). This one’s worse and it’s what you’re thinking of.

          It’s been used a fair bit around me.

        • braxy29@lemmy.world
          241·
          1 day ago

          i think it could be, depending upon circumstances. likewise, i think it could also be actively harmful (depending upon circumstances).

    • papalonian@lemmy.world
      40·
      2 days ago

      Traditionally, to be “locked in” on something would mean to be locked in on your target, goal, etc.

      Telling someone to lock in or “lock it in” is kind of like a nice way of saying “get your shit together” or “focus up”. I hear it in sports/ gaming lingo.

      • Maggoty@lemmy.world
        12·
        12 hours ago

        I do believe if someone told me to “lock in” while I was on a video game I would fall over laughing.

        • papalonian@lemmy.world
          4·
          8 hours ago

          I mean that’s the point kind of haha. I know some people use the lingo unironically, but if I tell my homies I’m bout to lock in, clutch up, and secure the dub, I don’t want them to take me seriously, lmao.

          When my buddies are playing, and we’re being loud, telling jokes, and generally goofing around instead of paying attention, one of the common things we’ll jokingly say when the laughter dies down is “alright alright alright, focus up guys, let’s focus up”.

        • Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          15·
          1 day ago

          There are negative connotations around “man up”

          “Lock in” it just a fancy way to say, focus. But with a “we’ve got this” vibe to it.

        • JokeDeity@lemm.ee
          13·
          17 hours ago

          IMO same thing, it’s all just dismissing the other person’s feelings and thoughts.

          • Amanduh@lemm.ee
            51·
            16 hours ago

            How is “you got this” dismissive? It’s literally letting the person know that you support them and they can handle the challenge or whatever, did someone use “you got this” sarcastically with you when you were a child?

            • JokeDeity@lemm.ee
              14·
              15 hours ago

              No, how is it not? Even reading it verbatim word for word. YOU got this, where is the we in that? And again, it’s just completely dismissive, ignores any and all problems with 3 meaningless words.

  • Dagwood222@lemm.ee
    93·
    2 days ago

    After all the stories about how male authors can’t do realistic female characters, someone reversed it and asked how could you instantly tell if it was a woman describing a man.

    The book ‘The Outsiders’ is about a bunch of tough guys who spend a lot of time talking about their feelings.

        • GluWu@lemm.eeEnglish
          126·
          2 days ago

          Llama 3.3 70B

          Yaaas, lemme give you the skibidi scoop on The Outsiders. It’s a whole vibe of a story about a squad of Greasers who are low-key tryin’ to get that rizz in a world where the Socs are runnin’ the game. Ponyboy, the main simp, is narratin’ the whole thing, and he’s all about that book-smart life, no cap.

          So, the Greasers are like, a gang of brothers and friends who are tryin’ to get that bag, but they’re also all about that loyalty and friendship, you feel? They’re a whole skibidi crew, with Ponyboy, Sodapop, Darry, Johnny, Dallas, and Two-Bit all bringin’ the heat. They’re not just some randoms, they’re a real squad, and they’ve got each other’s backs, no matter what.

          But, bruh, the Socs are like, the ultimate haters. They’re all about that prep life, and they think they’re better than the Greasers just ‘cause they’ve got more clout. They’re always tryin’ to get under the Greasers’ skin, and it’s a whole thing. There’s a rumble, and it gets pretty turnt up. Johnny has to get all scuffed up and kill one of the Socs in self-defense, and it’s a whole skibidi situation.

          The rest of the story is like, a wild ride of emotions, with the Greasers dealin’ with the aftermath of the rumble and tryin’ to stay one step ahead of the popo. It’s a real tear-jerker, tbh. But, for real, The Outsiders is a classic coming-of-age tale that’s all about gettin’ that rizz, stayin’ true to yourself, and not lettin’ the haters bring you down, you know? It’s a whole mood, and if you haven’t read it yet, you need to get on that skibidi grind, ASAP.