I was just mopping about the whole situation with her and Cobain. Here you have this talented, autistic, heteroflexible musician, lovingly married to this other talented queer musician, and people blame her for Kurt’s death because they needed to blame someone. They couldn’t just pay their respects and admit that they didn’t understand. They can’t accept that nobody needs to be blamed, with themselves and society as a whole being the only force that deserves any of it, if only for making such an unsupportive world for people like Cobain and Love.
<CW: Depression>
If you want to blame anything for Kurt Cobain’s death, blame the depression he struggled with. It is the tragic truth of this particular mental illness that it can kill people while their loved ones are powerless to do anything about it. It is very, very hard for family and friends of people with depression to watch how their loved ones suffer and it is cruel to blame them for failing where even the best health care professionals are at the limit of what they can do.