Imagine being stuck in your “I am the provider of this family” gender role so much that you turn down this kind of offer.
Shit. I took this offer for 10k more than I was making and benefits.
People underestimate the value of decent family benefits and the cost of child care. The benefits of having a stay at home parent breaks even way sooner than people think.
Depends on where in the world you are. Pre-kindergarten-daycare for a toddler costs about 300 € where I am, so two working parents are taking home way more than they have to pay additionally.
I would hope parents understand that spending time with their kids has value that cannot be replaced by money.
I mean, you do what you have to to get by. Just don’t choose to spend time at work instead of with your kids.
Are you a parent yourself?
Are you implying my point is invalid if I’m not? That’s called ad hominem.
Respond to the point made, not the person making it.
12 million? Pfft. Just a small fraction of that is more than fine. My wife makes ~$150k a year as a therapist and I am indeed happily that guy. Throw in home school, playing with the kids, running errands, and handling other parental and spousal duties that pop up.
Is it tiring? Yes, quite often. Is it stressful? Yes, sometimes. Is it worth it? Hell yeah.
Do I miss work since I “retired” almost two years ago? Hell no.
As long as life’s basics are covered and there’s a little extra play money it’s all worth it.
12 million? I’d do that if she earned 200k a year. The outfit and everything
Mate, of she’s earning 12m a year we can afford a cleaner. It would be my job to attend her other needs, if you know what I mean.
Be an awesome friend who has her back in everything she needs.
It would be my job to attend her other needs, if you know what I mean.
Yes, go clean the dishes please, sweetheart ;)
Actually, someone on 12m a year needs a personal assistant who can keep their non working life in order. Pissing away their partners time in dishwashing would be a waste of time.
I’ve seen variations of this, which seem like the intent is to be progressive, but the $$ is always set to some ridiculous amount (like $12 mil??).
I’d do it for a normal human salary if that’s what my family needed.
I’d probably get bored off my ass with only housework to do, so I’d take this some of the time if my partner raked in €12M/y. And I’d hire a cleaner.
It’s an interesting question really. You have enough money & time to have your every need covered, and have had so for the past several years. You’ve done everything you’ve set out to do when money was no longer an object, you’ve seen & done it all. What now?
I’m pretty sure “stay at home” does not mean you are a prisoner and are only allowed to do the dishes. With that kind of cash behind you, you would mostly have to make sure the house runs fine, but not necessarily alone. Then, it gives you some time to do whatever you want. Heck, even if you really stay at home most of the time, you could have rooms for games, training, making stuff, etc.
Although bringing money back is a requirement, it is not the motivation for a lot of people. Making stuff they enjoy is. If I was not burdened by the need to pay for food & a roof, I believe I would still design software, code, and have hardware projects. The only thing that would change is their scope, not being driven by customer craziness.
Get a homelab, self-host everything, email included.
Learn, study, figure out how to be a better person, see if I can figure out one of the universe’s mysteries. Put effort towards helping others. Or play video games.
Divorce her and take some of the money.
Now I’m free to do whatever I want, and I get a hefty amount of money.
I do not advocate for marrying and divorcing someone for lonely.
Unless that person is a proper bellend, like Musk, Zuckerberg, whoever the hecks in charge of google. Bezos
This reminds me of a story I saw some years ago on a subreddit, not sure if it was a revenge subreddit or MaliciousCompliance, of a slightly older man stocking shelves at a major supermarket. This older man seemed well-groomed, well-spoken, all that jazz, and he drove a Jaguar to work. So one day our OP asked for his story.
Turns out the man, several years before, had a job in upper management at a Fortune 500 company, making easily six figures before bonuses. One day, he and his wife end up divorcing, and she demands 45% of his income, as well as the house. One of the lawyers manages to negotiate a different deal, where she gets 75% of his income, but he gets to keep the house. No number, no minima, just “75 percent of his income.”
So when judge signs off on it, this old man quits his Fortune 500 job and takes a minimum wage job, stocking shelves at a supermarket.
Of course, the ex-missus is pissed, now that her income has basically dried up, but there’s little she can do.
How I hate gender roles…
