• Squirrel@thelemmy.club
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    My wife… I ask “what?” and she repeats either just the subject, or the sentence without the subject – never the full sentence.

    “We still need to pack for our trip.”

    “What?”

    “Our trip!”

    What about it?

    • UntouchedWagons@lemmy.ca
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      I have to do this too at times with my dad. He’ll come bursting into my office like the Kool Aid man and ask me something completely random and I tell him point blank I have no idea what he’s talking about.

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      My girlfriend will just start talking about something we were talking about 6 weeks ago as though it’s still salient.

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        My wife does this, too! There will be no context, she just “continues the conversation” as if I’m supposed to have any idea what she’s talking about.

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          I am guilty of doing this from time to time. My brain just assumes everyone else has context for some reason

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    At that point, I’ll just say, “I’m sorry, I’m partially deaf. Could you say that again very loudly or in different words?”

    It’s a whole new world.

  • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    For anyone not aware, if this happens to you frequently and you don’t have any hearing loss it can be a symptom of auditory processing disorder. If you have ADHD or are on the autism spectrum it’s more likely you also have auditory processing disorder.

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      I’d been considering asking my doctor about this but I figure it’s not going to make much of a difference at this point. I have ADHD and got my hearing tested a few years ago because I was concerned about how often I couldn’t understand what people were saying.

      Nope, my hearing is perfect. My brain just has a hard time decoding sounds sometimes I guess. A lot of times people sound like they’re mumbling. I’ve started telling people that I’m hard of hearing and asked them to speak a bit louder, slower, and more clearly. Makes a big difference!

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        Now add accents to the mix, and the problem becomes ten times worse. I always feel so horrible asking my foreign coworkers to repeat themselves because my brain just refuses to pick up what they’re saying. Oftentimes I get it completely wrong, or I just give up, smile and nod, and hope they weren’t asking me anything important. I already have trouble picking up on what people are saying the first time as is, even clear native English speakers…

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      Yep, sometimes I feel like my brain has conversation dyslexia. Like I hear the sounds just fine, but they mean nothing to me.

      • gammasfor@sh.itjust.works
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        Same. Though the trigger I find is being in a place with a lot of conversations going on at once (such as a busy bar). Its like my brain is trying to process every conversation and can’t focus on the one that actually matters.

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      I have bad hearing, but I have a bad habit of just giving up after the first repeat if I still can’t fully hear what they’re saying, instead of asking people to talk more clearly because of my hearing issues.

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    I think the way I experience is quite awkward.

    I ask them to repeat what they said and then part way through them saying it again, my brain realises what it was first time so I end up agreeing with them while they’re still talking.

    • highduc@lemmy.ml
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      Yeah it happens to me too sometimes. Probably more common than we realize.

  • esadatari@lemmy.world
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    nice try stone cold steve austin, we’re all onto your “what” gimmick! WE’VE SEEN IT BEFORE

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    Lol no I’m walking away after the 3rd ‘what’ a person gives me in a row. That’s a huge pet peeve of mine.

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      I get anxiety about this though as I have a bit of an audio processing disorder where in any room with a lot of background noise I struggle to process what the person right in front of me is saying.

      I don’t really know the best approach beyond pretending to know what the other person is saying.

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        If there’s a lot of background noise then that’s understandable but for example, the other day I went to home Depot to get some tools for a yard project. I asked an employee where the tillers were and she just said ‘what’ like 3 times in a row. I just said nvm and looked on my own.

        I don’t know, I guess it just makes it seem to me like the person is not listening to me so why waste time?