• Storm@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Look. It’s pointless to compare yourself to others. Everyone does things at their own pace, on their own time. Who cares if someone has lost their virginity before you have? Genuinely, it doesn’t fucking matter. Life your own life, and speak your own truth.

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    1 year ago

    Virginity is fake and made up.

    Also sex is fun but not some revelatory experience(but what do I know, Im just a lesbian, a group which famously has many more orgasms than average), eo not base your self esteem on having it or not having it.

    It also isn’t a substitute for intimacy, which when I talk to people who are weird about not having sex, I see them conflate needing a hug or to express their feelings with having sex.

    Rant over.

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      1 year ago

      To be fair, Someone that has “more orgasms than average” saying not to worry about it is like a rich guy saying money doesn’t buy happiness.

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        1 year ago

        No, it is like a rich guy saying “Money doesn’t make you more mature, spiritually enlightened or a better person”

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      1 year ago

      Thank you for your rant.

      To add: Your SO is not a replacement for a social network. Don’t hunt for the one, place people you click with at all distance levels as you get to know them. A healthy social network leads to healthy relationships.